
Happy Warren. Dirndl-donner. 1936 Berlin Olympics translater. Smith College graduate. German, Latin, Spanish, French, English, teacher. Lifelong learner. Mother. Grandmother. Great-grandmother. Adopted grandmother. Nurturer. Gardener. Laugher. Talker. Inspiration.
I don't know if I appreciated Happy as fully as I do now when I was younger. Some part of me must've known it was pretty special for a 73 year old lady to volunteer her time teaching German at my elementary school. And then to take those rowdy 8th graders to Germany on her own! What a ride it's been knowing Happy. What a positive influence and true member of my family she's become. I am so blessed to have known her.
From picking plums in her yard to singing Edeleiss songs, from searching for cuckoo clocks in Nuernberg to celebrating Oktoberfest in Leavenworth and so much more, Happy has been a wonderful friend, teacher, and adopted grandma to me.
I loved going to her house and signing her tablecloths on special occasions, looking at the newest Christmas cards posted from her friends around the world, seeing her latest photos of family and friends plastered around her eclectic rooms, checking my progress on the height chart in her kitchen. I relished her annual Christmas update and eating her fudge and sipping red zinger tea while practicing German at Stammtisch. And when I couldn't visit in person, I have learned to relish the phone calls that continue even after we've said goodbye. "Isn't she a sweetheart for calling? What a nice surprise! Wait 'til I tell her mother."
It's been hard to see some of the physical changes that have occurred in the last 20 years or so that I've known her--the hunchback, the hearing loss, the macular degeneration and of course the wretched fall--but despite it all and even amidst the full brunt of the storm, Happy's essence has remained. How could anyone remain so cheerful, so calm, so alert during a painful fall in her driveway? She even invited the paramedics to her 90th birthday party!
Riding in the ambulance was so upsetting for me, so frightening. And I fear the day that I have to say goodbye to Happy forever. But she faces everything with ease. Even in the twilight of her years, she continues to teach me, to inspire and enrich my life. Knowing her helps ease my fear of growing older as I see how she's done it with grace and dignity beyond imagination. If I have even a portion of her enthusiasm, her awareness, her knowledge, curiosity, and zest for life at the age of 88--I will be a lucky woman. She will truly shine in the heavens as a life light.
I wrote this 4 years ago. That sad, dreaded day has finally come. Knowing that the end was inevitable, I've been trying to prepare myself for Happy's departure from this world for the last few years. But my first reaction today was, "But I didn't expect it to happen so soon!" I have to laugh at that. She was 92 and two days shy of one month when she passed away this morning. In my mind, the length of her long life and my lifetime combined wouldn't be long enough to keep Happy around.
Though I'm devastated that Happy is no longer with us, her positive thinking and attitude of facing things with ease are comforting and help me draw strength. May her spirit live on in all of us.
Auf Wiedersehen, Happy. Ich werde dich immer lieben.
Louisa Fox "Happy" Warren--December 18, 1916 - January 16, 2009